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Understanding Domestic Violence


Without a Voice, a novel set in the 1840s, tells the story of Sarah, a young wife leaving domestic violence. She travels across three states with her young daughters as they learn about their own strengths and abilities, and as they discover a new life with family and friends. I encourage you to use some of the thoughts in this book to start or continue conversations concerning domestic violence in our communities.

Who are the people affected by domestic abuse?

We are …

  • Musicians and Videographers

  • Teachers and Parents

  • Writers and Artists

  • Executives and Reporters

  • Retail Employees

  • Accountants and Chefs

  • Among many other titles …

We are from…

  • Small towns

  • Large cities

  • From Collierville and Byhalia and Chicago and L.A. and Paducah and Jackson

  • From Texas and Wyoming and Vermont and D.C.

  • From the middle class, the working class and the wealthy

  • From universities where we earned our master’s degrees

  • And from colleges where we got a two-year degree…

  • And from high schools where we barely got by…

Our families look a lot like yours with…

  • With kids

  • Or now empty nesters

  • With 4 bedrooms and 3.5 baths

  • With a two-bedroom fixer-upper

  • In the suburbs

  • Or downtown

  • With a garage

  • Or on the bus route

  • Or in a biking community…

Our faith shapes us … We are …

  • Christian, Jews, Muslims…

  • The person who walks in to worship weekly

  • The person who hasn’t been in a while

  • The person you know well

  • The person who just says hello and walks on

  • The person you prayed with or prayed for

  • The person who leads worship

  • Or teaches a class

  • Or reads the Scripture

But we face abuse…daily, weekly, whenever our abuser lashes out at us…

We stay because…

We are scared…

We are weary…

We don’t have access to any resources…

We can’t afford a lawyer…

We wonder what you will think of us…

We believe the lies…

We don’t have a place to live…

Our abuser has befriended our family and friends…you like him…

Our church expects me to carry this cross…

My children will have a broken home…

My abuser controls the money and the car and the house…

My abuser knows where I am every minute of every day….

I think it’s my fault…If I was a better person…

You tell me all couples fight…

My abusers apologizes…

I don’t know how to leave…

CAN YOU HEAR US?